I was concerned that they were going to be just like the people I’d seen online. It turned me off of interacting with a lot of guys who were that little bit older. I have received some of the weirdest and concerning messages from men who were 40+ years older than me. I’ve been on apps and websites a lot since coming out and I always seem to get attention from older men. I remember the reason I initially came out was to find someone and have that elusive romantic relationship. I’ve been at the receiving end of a creepy message from an older guy but at the same time I’ve felt anger towards a community that seems to have forgotten what Pride was originally all about. I’ve been an out gay man since I was 14 (I’m now 26), and I’ve experienced both of these attitudes. Or appearing bitter and deriding younger people who don’t’ understand the history of what people went through just a few decades ago. It’s a supposedly comical slant on the fact there is widespread discrimination against older people in the gay community.Īt the same time, there has been criticism of the older LGBTQI+ community overstepping boundaries when it comes to dating. It has long been a joke that any gay man over the age of 30 is considered old.
